Showing posts with label Advice (Mommy). Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice (Mommy). Show all posts

Friday, March 8, 2019

Mindfulness

Since starting graduate school I haven't really taken a break. In-between classes we have the option of taking a break and that break can be one week to three weeks or we can choose to not take a break at all. Due to me wanting to complete my degree and start working as soon as possible I have opted not to take any breaks. However, due to my overwhelming responsibilities and the process of starting my clinical work I have decided to take a 3-week break. I'm currently on my second week and I feel that although I have been taking steps to better myself more intensely the last couple of years;  it is in this experience that I just had an epiphany moment. I have a better understanding of why those steps were so extremely vital to my journey right now. I have been feeling extremely anxious and unsure about many of the decisions I have made in the last few months; years in fact!  Even though I have grown secure with my decisions.  However, at this very moment I have just realized that those decisions, those steps were necessary not only for my health, sanity, love and respect for myself, my peace, but also for my well-being of being present in my body and this time and space.


I have learned that therapist also need their own therapist. We all have our own set of problems and experiences that we have to deal with that impact the people we are; and that impact can be a negative or a positive one. So on my journey I have had the honor of experiencing several therapist and a few have suggested mindfulness practices to me. I admit, I did not truly understand what mindfulness was until today. Thanks to a podcast app that I just downloaded I have chosen to subscribe to many therapist topics to utilize as resources for myself that may also be beneficial to share with my clients and through my research I have learned that mindfulness means different things to many people.  Therefore, I have gained a bit of compassion for myself for putting so much pressure on self to understand something the way another therapist understands mindfulness to be. I now understand that my confusion on what mindfulness is was because it was something different to me. It's not just shutting my brain down to not think any thoughts.  It's about welcoming those thoughts and being aware that they are there but placing a bit of a boundary on those thoughts and telling them I see you, but this is my focus right now. Its not just sitting still posing like a Buddha.  I have now realized that I have been practicing mindfulness a lot in my relationships, when I cook, when I go for a walk, when I'm shutting off the TV and playing games with my kids, when I'm listening to the birds, when we're trying to have family dinner, when I'm gardening, when I'm drinking a cup of tea. Mindfulness is a awareness and it's a focus on one thing, but also a developed compassion that we're human beings and our minds roam.  That's what they are supposed to do.  I'm now seeing ways that I would like to practice mindfulness with more of an intention; for example it's a habit for me to tell my kids I love you everyday.  However, it has become more of a habit; there's no real intention on it. When I'm saying it, I am making their lunch or I am pushing them in the doorways of their school building or I am turning a direction to head to work or something. Now I see that I have to be mindful in my intent to actually help my children really see that this is a moment of expressed love and not just words.  Furthermore, not with just my kids but also with my husband, my mother, my father, myself. I am so looking forward to the focus that I am sure being intentionally mindful will bring to my life.  Maybe you will be on the same thing I'm on...

Saturday, July 23, 2016

Friday, December 18, 2015

This Moment

I'm back!!!!!! I promise I won't write this post, and not see you again for another 2 years.  I've learned that writing or reading is needed in my life in order for me to feel like me so, I'm determined to write, but at the same time not feel overwhelmed and pressured by it.

So anyways...

There is so much going on that I don't even know where to start!  Let me just start with the moment...(be more in the moment it helps)



Have you ever wanted to prove something to other people, (and yourself) so bad that you develop tunnel vision and you can't see anything else?

Well, I decided after designing for 15 years and not doing a fashion show of my own, that I was going to make it happen come Spring, but today I just realized I just have to much going on!


  1. I'm working on strengthening my relationship with God. I've found a church with Pastors that I adore, and I've joined a bible study with my Just 4 Wives group aka Real Wives of Chicago Sisters, and because of the wonderful movie, War Room, I'm developing my own prayer closet/prayer book. 
  2. I recently finished taking a class with a Chamber of commerce retail pilot program that helps Entrepreneurs with resources to open their own storefronts.  Although I'm finish with the class, I still have work to do in making this happen; like networking, scouting locations, working on my inventory, keeping in contact with current clients, trying to get new clients, etc., and did I mention that I just changed the name of my business from The Isis Collections to Enchante and there's so much I have to update, and re-register with the name change.
  3. I recently applied to graduate school. Hopefully I get accepted (Pray that I get accepted Gods & Goddesses), and if I do I'll be starting September 2016, but there are 2 prerequisite classes I'll need to take before I start. 
  4. My oldest son is starving for his parents attention, and I have to make away to give it to him.
  5. My youngest son is starving for his parents attention, and I have to make away to give it to him, as well as potty train him, and get him ready and registered to start school in September 2016. 
  6. Last but not least I have a husband that is starving for my attention, and I have to make a way to give it to him as well.
  7. One more thing, I have to not forget about me, and take care of myself.  Do things that I want to do.  Relax!  Relate!  Release!

So because of all of this, I've decided since I'm getting closer to getting my storefront location, I will just wait until my grand opening and have a fashion show then.  I know many of you, I have reached out to because I wanted you to be apart of my fashion show, and I still want to be apart of it, but it won't be happening in Spring.  I promise I'll keep you updated.  Sometimes you have to make hard decisions and cancel things before they turn how to be a problem.


Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Pull It Together Tuesday (Pacifier Fairy)

So first off I want to say that I have ABSOLUTELY no problem with pacifiers unless that child is 10 years old and still needs them through out the day, then there's a problem, other than that I have no problem.

I admit my son is 3 years old and he still sucks his pacifier.  However, he does not need it throughout the day, he only wants it when he is sleepy.  I know about all of the "statistics" and "risk," but as his Mother these "statistics" and "risk" have not affected us, and I have NO PROBLEM with him wanting his pacifier for his naps, and at night.

HOWEVER, being that he will be starting school in September, and I think that this particular situation will help build his character and make him stronger.  I have decided that I will let him make the decision of saying bye to his pacifier, sort a speak.

I recently told him that the Pacifier Fairy was upset, because he's a big boy now and big boys don't need pacifiers, so the Pacifier Fairy has been looking in the garbage everyday for his pacifiers so she can take them to fairyland, but there are no pacifiers there, and this is making her very upset.  I asked my son, "Do you want the pacifier fairy to be upset?"  My son said, "Yes!"  I tried very hard not to laugh, and I succeeded.  I then explained to my son again, that he was a big boy, and he needs to put his pacifiers in the garbage when he's ready so that the Pacifier Fairy can get them.  My so then told me, "You do it!"  I said, "No, you do it!"  So far, no action has been made.  We'll pull it together soon, lol.

Please give me some POSITIVE advice about this situation, lol.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Pull It Together Tuesday!

Happy Pull it Together Tuesday! 

I know I just came off of a wonderful vacation at Wisconsin Dells with my family, but I admit, that I had a little bit of a breakdown last night.  I'm so used to doing this and that, but when it comes down to me chilling out and resting I feel so guilty about it, that I just have a crying fit, and my husband looks at me like, "not this again!"  So since I wasn't successful at resting yesterday, I'm determined to do it somewhat today ;-).  I've made a couple important phone calls, and I'm going up to my sons preschool, to finish registering him, but other than that I'm pulling nothing together, until probably about Thursday!

How do you moms out there handle the guilty mom blues?

Friday, April 8, 2011

Fine Jewelry Friday!

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, but it's confession/venting time!  My head is screaming and spinning right now.  I'm so happy to be about 80% done with the new Jewelry, scarves and headbands, but I wish I was 100% done especially since I have 2 shows coming up this weekend!  The Vintage Clothing & Accessories show in Grayslake, IL and the  Bridal Expo, but I still have to put all of these items on the website, so if you want to order something new, you will have to email or call, and I'll email you an invoice for payment. 

I'm so upset that I've neglected my ETSY store.  I really need to be on top of this!  Does anyone else out there have this problem of letting life and facebook stop you from tending to your ETSY store?  I'm also upset that I ordered labels about 3 weeks ago, and they have yet to come, so some items this weekend will be sold without labels, and that kind of making me angry, as well as my last order of beads haven't come yet, so tonight I'll probably be up all night, and to top it off I'M SO SLEEPY, and this foggy weather isn't helping at all!

I'm so incredible thankful for my gift, and these opportunities, but I think it's just time for a nap.  Then I'll wake up and feel the imaginary sunshine on the FINE JEWELRY FRIDAY!  Have a great weekend Gods & Goddesses, I KNOW I WILL! Only to start Potty Training bootcamp with my son on Monday.  Talk to you later!

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Pull It Together Tuesday!

So I'm getting off of my Birthday festivities high, and now I'm trying to figure out should I pull together on my list of things to do, or should I continue to relax.  Some of you understand that just one month ago I was a verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry busy lady. Mentally and physically I still can't get used to the fact that I can do whatever the hell it is  that I want to do.  Whether its go crazy pushing my business, The Isis Collections, go crazy being a stepford wife, or sit down and watch T.V.  Whatever I choose will be perfectly ok, but I still can't help but feel guilty about just sitting down and doing something for myself, like read a book, or watch t.v. or go for a walk by myself.  So much so, that I get headache about just thinking about doing something for myself.

So this is my dilemma, after making myself sit back and let others do things for me for my birthday, I'm struggling with feeling selfish and wanting more, or going to my to do list. Am I alone feeling like this?

10 things never to say to a stay at home/working mom

These articles were in this months REDBOOK, and I wanted to share them.  I can so relate to both.


10 Things Never to Say to a Stay-at-Home Mom


1. When the kids are older, do you think you'll get a real job?
2. How June Cleaver of you!
3. Oh, so you don't work?
4. Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow?
5. All day with your kids? I can't even imagine.
6. I'm jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn't have to work either.
7. What do you do all day, anyway?
8. I'm sure you're not the only one who's ever wasted money on a college degree.
9. That explains why your son is so clingy!
10. Weird. I assumed your house would be superclean.


10 Things Never to Say to a Working Mom


1. It must be hard missing all those special moments every day.
2. I suppose it's smart that you're working. You know, in case your husband leaves you some day.
3. I'm surprised you went back to work. Your husband seems so successful.
4. It's cute when they call your nanny "Mama."
5. I just love my kids too much to leave them during the day.
6. Did you see Dateline? The one with the hidden camera in the day care?
7. I could never let someone else raise my children. But that's just me!
8. I hated my mom because she was never home after school like everyone else's mom.
9. You must feel so guilty.
10. I wish I were as laid-back as you and could just let the housework go.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

The Gift of Criticism?

How would you handle this situation.  This past weekend, I was selling my Jewelry at an Art Show.  My Husband and my 2 year old son, participated in this show with me.  It was the end of the show, and everyone was packing up.  In awe of the open space we now had in front and around my booth my son decided to line up the chairs as if he was playing musical chairs.  He was sliding on the floor, and cleaning up paper on the floor.   I thought this was very hilarious but I was also cautious to the fact that all though all of the vendors were Adults, but I don't know these people, and wasn't sure if they would be as cautious towards running over my son.  So in order to prevent me cursing out someone that has hurt my child, I called him over to my booth to color.  My neighbor then proceeded to tell me,  "as good as he's been all day, I would let him play."  I also was given another comment of criticism.

Let me tell you all that it was incredibly hard not to give this neighbor a few unkind words, but instead I took my anger out on my defenseless Husband. 

So why do people criticize? It depends on the person and situation, experts say.


Sometimes it's about being aggravated and irritated, but criticism often reflects more about the criticizer than the person being criticized.  It can also be about a lack of self-knowledge and self-esteem. It's a whole lot easier to focus on someone else's mistakes and misgivings than it is to work on what you could do differently for yourself.

How you react to criticism depends on a variety of factors, including who's making the comment, your relationship with that person and what's said. It also depends on your mood. If you've had a really bad day and your boss yelled at you and you're late and then someone criticizes you, you're not in a good place to start with.

How do you deal with constructive, negative criticism?  How thin skinned are you?

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Its Pull It Together Tuesday

Happy Pull It Together Tuesday!


You know, this morning I was thinking, I need to pull my husband together! I’m at work, my husband always calls me on my cell phone, but lately he’s been calling me on my work phone, and I’m wondering why? So, when he calls me today, I tell him, why are you calling me on my work phone, call me on my cell phone. You know he hangs up the phone and calls me10 minutes later on my cell… I mean I didn’t mean for him to hang up the phone that instant and call me back!

So because of this, I’ve decided maybe I just have huge communication problems. You think? So in the process of still bettering myself and being positive I’ve been a busy lady. I’m not sure if I’m still so exhausted from the minor surgery I had or because I’m just exhausted, plus I’m pretty sure staying out until 3:30 in the morning at a night club didn’t help much either. I have art shows, and events for the next 5 weekends straight, and praying that I make lots and lots of money! I’m so happy I have all of my sons Halloween items done, but I still need to get the tickets for Mickey Mouse at Rosemont Theatre, and I have to figure out where we’re going to go Trick or Treating.

Anybody else can’t wait until Thanksgiving weekend?

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

It's together Tuesday!

We interrupt the regular scheduled program to make an announcement, WE HAVE 100 FOLLOWERS! So excited and I appreciate each and every one of you, and as we continue to grow, we all will continue to get better and better.


Back on schedule! Happy Pull it together Tuesday! I’m also excited to announce that this past weekend I did something that I haven’t done in about 3 years +, I went to a peaceful spot (can’t tell you where it’s a secret from those that invade my me time ☺.) and actually read a terrific book, called, My Husband’s Girlfriend by Cydney Rax. I’ll be putting a review of it on my sidebar soon. This book was GREAT, and I enjoyed myself. This week I will continue to do exactly that, Pull myself together! I’m taking care of my health physically and mentally, and it’s been wonderful. I’ve had quiet, I’ve shed some tears, I’ve thought about my eating, and so far so good! What are you all pulling together this week?

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Paid Sick Days

While pregnant with my son I not only dealt with the new adventures that my body took me on, but I was also worried about my job, my maternity leave, and it caused me to research different laws. In my research I came across moms rising, and became a subscriber. In my search, I became overwhelmed with utter dismay and appreciation. Appreciation because I was happy that I could take a 12 week leave and still have my job when I come back, but dismayed because it would be unpaid. Then I was further shocked when I learned of other countries medical leave laws:


US 12 weeks unpaid
Canada 18 weeks unpaid
France 6wks before labor, and ends 8 weeks after

And Europe Maternity leave is granted to all working mothers but then different companies have their maternity leave packages so you need to have full information regarding maternity leave.

Maternity leave laws in Europe give the mother a paid leave of THIRTY NINE WEEKS PAID though the time period is divided into two i.e. ordinary and additional leave which can last for a period of 6months each. The employers have their own schemes to offer which benefits mother as well as the new born but then you need to qualify to receive these maternity leave benefits.

You are granted unpaid leave in case you adopt a baby or become a surrogate mother.

In the event of a miscarriage you are entitled to the thirty nine weeks of paid maternity leave in spite of having undergone a miscarriage or your baby is stillborn at birth but then this law applies only if the pregnancy has crossed the twenty four week gestation period.

Now isn’t that just appalling?

So now we have jobs, that don’t want to give their employees, (a good amount of this employees are mothers) paid sick days. Read below to see what you can do to help out.



I used to be a kitchen manager in a restaurant, and only the salaried managers (not me) had paid sick leave. As a result, employees often came to work sick because they couldn't afford to lose a day's pay. I remember going to work with strep throat once – I was running a fever and was so sick that I had to sit on a stack of milk crates in order to work. Employees shouldn't have to make those kinds of choices, and the public shouldn't be put at risk by companies unwilling to protect public health by acknowledging the humanity of their employees – we all get sick sometimes! – and giving paid sick leave.”

-MomsRising member from Maryland

Over the last few months, we've been asking MomsRising members to send us their personal stories about the need for paid sick days and the response has been overwhelming.

Members from every state have shared their stories, demonstrating the indisputable truth that lack of a rational paid sick day policy impacts each and every one of us.

How?

* One mom writes that her child now has permanent hearing damage because she delayed taking her child to doctor due to lack of paid sick days;

* Another works in a hospital and reports that many hospital employees show up to work sick because they do not have paid sick days;

* Still another mom of two children with autoimmune disorders is forced to contend with serious health problems when her kids get sick because other parents do not have paid sick days and must send their children to school sick.

Clearly, the fact that nearly 40 percent of private sector workers, and nearly 80 percent of low wage workers do not have a single paid sick day makes no sense for our families' health or our nation's economy. [1]

With your help, we can change this.

Can you support our campaign for paid sick days by making a contribution today? http://action.momsrising.org/go/PSDdonation/307?akid=2238.625479.QxNpAf&t=4

With your help, we can turbo-charge our campaign to pass the Healthy Families Act, which would guarantee that employees of all but the smallest businesses are allowed to earn up to 7 paid sick days a year. In addition, we're entering campaign season so we need your help in this crucial time to make sure that all candidates understand that paid sick days are a critical issue for moms and dads.

It's not just MomsRising that thinks this issue is a priority. In fact, a recent poll demonstrates that over 75 percent of the public supports paid sick days. [2]

We've collected hundreds of heart-breaking and heart-stopping stories from MomsRising members from every state in the nation. Now we need your support to make sure that these stories--and more!--are in the hands of decision makers, candidates, and are heard by the American public. We need to step up our strategic media campaigns and creative on-the-ground actions now in order to make this happen. And, we need to pump up our efforts to pass the Healthy Families Act.

But we can't do it without your help.

Although the Healthy Families Act now has over 120 co-sponsors in the House, and key leadership in the Senate is backing the Healthy Families Act as well, this legislation isn't moving forward as quickly as it should. In fact, some would say it's downright stalled.

We need to amplify our efforts to make this legislation move through Congress.

With our more than a million members taking action and sharing our personal stories, we have the power and political muscle to make our political leaders and candidates stand up and pay attention to the needs of moms and dads--particularly in this coming election season.

Yet without adequate resources we can't fully flex our muscle.

Please help us flex our superhero muscles by making a donation to our paid sick day campaign today! http://action.momsrising.org/go/PSDdonation/307?akid=2238.625479.QxNpAf&t=6

Together, we can move mountains. Thank you!

Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner, Executive Director
MomsRising

P.S. Have a story to share about paid sick days? Click here: http://action.momsrising.org/go/184?akid=2238.625479.QxNpAf&t=8

P.P.S. Check out great articles about paid sick days in our blog carnival here: http://action.momsrising.org/go/308?akid=2238.625479.QxNpAf&t=10

[1] U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, Selected Paid Leave Benefits: Access. March 2010.
[2] Testimony of Heidi Hartmann, Institute for Women’s Policy Research, before the U.S. Senate Committee on Health, Education, Labor, and Pensions, 2007.
[3] T. Smith and J. Kim, Paid Sick Days: Attitudes and Experiences, National Opinion Research Center and the Public Welfare Foundation (June 2010) (“NORC Report”), available at www.publicwelfare.org. Data were collected via a telephone survey of 1461 adults in the United States, conducted from March 18 through May 6, 2010.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Pulled.....

HELLO BLOG WORLD!

I know its been a while.  Still being pulled in every direction, and I promise once I become that stay at home mom, you will hear more from me.  Betwen my business, my 9 to 5 :-(, my husband, my son, my different groups, I'm just not doing a good job with doing me!  I know I'm not alone out there.  Tell me something blog world, how do yo do you?  How do you balance the world?

Thursday, February 4, 2010

The traveling butterflies

Time Passes.....
Life happens.....
Distance separates.....
Children grow up.....
Jobs come and go. Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do...
Hearts break. Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Careers end.....

BUT.....Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach...

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf,

and waiting with open arms at the valley's end...

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you....or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters.....

Daughter-in-laws, sisters, sister-in-laws, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

Pass this on to all the women who help make your life meaningful. I just did. Short and very sweet. There are more than twenty angels in this world. Ten are peacefully sleeping on clouds. Nine are playing. And one is reading her email at this moment.



Tuesday, October 6, 2009

More Me Time...

I was sent this months REDBOOK subscription and an article hit a spot close to my heart. I wanted to share it with you all.


Too many of us don’t wind down during our downtime (Me included) –if we manage to find any downtime at all. We feel like we’re doing the “right” thing only when we’re crossing tasks off our to-do list, but that doesn’t allow any time to focus on ourselves, which is key to health and happiness. You deserve a place alone to rest, plan, read, dream, journal, or think, to turn off daily stress and just e you –not the mom-you or the wife-you, but the you you. Creating that haven doesn’t have to take a lot of time, money, or even space. Claim a corner in the living room, a nook in the attic, or a spot in the bathroom. (Ask your husband to don’t allow the kids to knock on the bathroom door, waiting for you to come out .) Just a peaceful area where you put your chair, or desk, and a few of your favorite things…Truly appreciate everything you put into your space and the moments you spend there. Know that you deserve this alone time, and do it often!

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Give Thanks...

So I'm back from Vegas, back to reality, and I feeling kind of ... I don't know... Bluhhh.  Thats the only thing I can think of to describe myself right now.  I don't want to be at work.  I'm sleepy.  I want to sit in the bed and hug my son and my husband.  I should be doing my homework.  I need to prepare for the Diva's ball tomorrow, and I just want to give thanks for everything I do have, but I can't help being a greedy american.  So with that said, I come into work and check my emails, and behold I find some inspiration.  I wanted to share it with you...


Sometimes in our busy day we forget to be thankful for all our wonderful blessings and this is a sweet little reminder.


I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around.We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels.

My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, "This Is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are Received."

I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.

Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.

The angel then said to me, "This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them."

I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth

Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the Door of a very small station To my great surprise, only one angel was Seated there, idly doing nothing. "This is the Acknowledgment Section," My angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed "How Is it that there is no work going on here?" I asked.

"So sad," the angel sighed. "After people receive the blessings that they asked For, very few send back acknowledgments ."

"How does one acknowledge God's blessings?" I asked.

"Simple," the angel answered. Just say, "Thank you,God."

"What blessings should they acknowledge?" I asked.

"If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy ."

"And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity."

Also .......

" If you woke up this morning with more health than illness ...... You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day ."

"If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation ... You are ahead of 700 million people in the world."

"If your parents are still alive and still married ...you are very rare ."

"If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you're unique to all those in doubt and despair."

Ok, what now? How can I start?

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.

Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you want, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.

A TTN:
Acknowledge Dept.: "Thank you Lord, for giving me the ability to share this message and for giving me so many wonderful people to share it with."

God without man is still God.  Man without God is nothing!

Monday, September 14, 2009

Me Time...Nooky!

Oh my lord Jesus!  I cannot wait to go off on this 4 day weekend extravaganza to Vegas with me, myself and I and a couple of friends. No Husband, no baby crawling on me, and I mean literally crawling. My son is 20 months now and he thinks I am a jungle gym, equipped with handle bars (my boobs and ears), and shiny things to swirl and pull on at times (my earrings, bracelets or necklaces). I love it don’t get me wrong. It’s nothing like coming home from work and having a smiling face run to you, but it can seriously way on you, and tire you out. No sippy cups, bottles or breakfast, lunch and dinners to make. No vacuuming, dusting, dishes, etc. to do. No work to think about. No having myself being pulled in a million different directions, and then at the end of the day, begging for any type of intimate attention from my husband. Yes you read that correctly. Usually women are complaining about having to do so much stuff during the day, and being so tired, then being happy to lay down and finally get some rest only to have their husband pulling on nightgowns for some nooky. I wish my husband did that! With his lazy ass. Yes, followers! I told you it was going to start getting a little personal and juicy. So cover your eyes if you don’t want to read it.  I love my husband, and he’s alright. Lately I’ve had to make myself learn to appreciate him more, but since we had our son, and probably before than, this department has seriously been lacking, and I tell you its not because my son still sleeps with us. There are other places to go you know! Its also not because I’m always angry with him, cause the last 3 months I have seriously changed! Its not like I haven’t been trying you know. He doesn’t turn me down. That is not the case at all. It’s just why do I always have to initiate? He is just so damn lazy! What do you think?

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

The Bitch In the House

So I'm sitting on a humid 147 Outer Drive Chicago bus on a very rainy day after working my 9 to 5, blogging from my blackberry and I'm reading a book called, The Bitch in the House. There is an excerpt I have 2 share.

“Unlike my mother, I don’t have to go from my father's house 2 my husbands. And perhaps it's simply this time and space to think about the future and 2 love and live with and learn from whomever I please. Time and space and freedom my mother never had that she referred to when she said I have choices… I still have years 2 figure it out; 2 try 2 learn how 2 feel pride and even power without running myself ragged; 2 be with a man without being angry 4 the rest of my life. I hope I can.”