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Decision-Making Is a Team Sport

by Dr. Gary Chapman


Our theme this week is decision making and unity. It is in the process of making decisions that many couples run into conflict. Why? Because we are human and we think differently. We all have our own opinions. Nothing wrong with that, but it means that we must listen and try to understand each other. Otherwise, we become enemies, and spend our time arguing over decisions.

How do we create this positive, seeking-to-work-together attitude? I believe the answer lies in one word: love.

Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. That is, he is to seek her well-being. The big question for the husband in any decision is: How will this affect me wife? He is to be leaning toward that which would enhance her life.

She, on the other hand, is to be thinking about him. When two people have this attitude, then they can make decisions with minimal conflict. The opposite of love is selfishness.

Love builds unity. Selfishness destroys it