Thursday, November 4, 2010
The Gift of Criticism?
Let me tell you all that it was incredibly hard not to give this neighbor a few unkind words, but instead I took my anger out on my defenseless Husband.
So why do people criticize? It depends on the person and situation, experts say.
Sometimes it's about being aggravated and irritated, but criticism often reflects more about the criticizer than the person being criticized. It can also be about a lack of self-knowledge and self-esteem. It's a whole lot easier to focus on someone else's mistakes and misgivings than it is to work on what you could do differently for yourself.
How you react to criticism depends on a variety of factors, including who's making the comment, your relationship with that person and what's said. It also depends on your mood. If you've had a really bad day and your boss yelled at you and you're late and then someone criticizes you, you're not in a good place to start with.
How do you deal with constructive, negative criticism? How thin skinned are you?